Hosted by the bride for her attendants, the bridesmaids’ luncheon is given a few weeks before the wedding as a way to say thanks to the women in her wedding party. The bride may present her attendant gifts at this event and a pink cake with a trinket baked inside is traditionally served for dessert.

According to legend, the bridesmaid whose slice contains the trinket, which can be a ring, thimble, or charm, will be the next to wed. Since busy pre-wedding schedules don’t always allow for a last-minute luncheon, you might want to find other ways to say thanks. Another good time to treat everyone to lunch or evening cocktails is when you’re all out shopping for dresses. You may also hold a get-together at your home.